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How to Believe God for a Mate

By: Dr. Frederick K.C. Price

Trust God to Bring the Right Mate

      In selecting a mate, sometimes we humans just look at the exterior. God knows what is in the heart, and He knows what is inside of you. The natural is all that we can see but, as the saying goes, "All that glitters is not gold." 
     You might see women who are very beautiful physically who you might think are fabulous wives. But if you spoke to their husbands, you might find out that living with those women is an entirely different story from what you would think it would be. They cannot cook. They are not supportive of their husbands. They nag. They argue constantly.
     There are other women who do not look beautiful to some people, but are fabulous wives. Beauty is only skin deep. The real beauty is that which comes from within. It radiates. You are in for a rude awakening if you base everything on what you see.
     Let me clarify something: I am not saying that you should not have a pretty wife or a handsome husband. If that is what you desire, you can have it. But let God bring the person into your life. He knows who is best suited for you.
    If you are going to "claim" a husband or wife, I would advise you to just pray this simple prayer: "Lord, I want a husband (or wife) who will fulfill my spiritual and physical needs. I believe that I have recieved my request according to Mark 11:24". 
     Then simply thank the Lord daily for your mate. Trust Him to bring the person into your life. You will know who the person is when he or she comes, because the Holy Spirit will tell you - if you ask Him.
     When you leave the matter in God's hands, you do not have to worry about playing Russian Roulette with your life. God will see that the right person crosses your path. Trust God! He heard you when you prayed. 
    "And this is the confidence that we have in him, that if we asking anything according to his will, he heareth us: And if we know that he hear us, whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired of him." 1 John 5:14,15
     God never sleeps nor slumber. (Psalms 121:3,4) When you pray, He hears you. You can trust Him to answer your prayer.

Wait on the Lord

     I also caution you not to go against the Word of God and marry an unbeliever.
     Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? 2 Corinthians 6:14,15
     As a Christian, you are a member of God's family. Do not marry an unbeliever out of loneliness or desperation. The Lord knows your desire. He will answer your prayer! You need to exercise patience.
      "...the trying of your faith worketh patience. But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing." James 1:3,4
     There are many people who try to help God out. Even though they do not have a mate, they prepare to have wedding invitations printed or they purchase a wedding gown. That is not faith- that is foolishness. And trying to help God out like that does not speed up the answer to your prayer. Wait on the Lord.
     Have you considered that you may not be ready for that man or women of your dreams? There may be some improvement God still needs to bring about withing you. Maybe God has to prepare you for the mate.
     There are many people who have the wrong attitude about marriage. For example, it seems that men invariably want to marry a virgin. They want the untouched virgin. Yet, they do not stop to think that maybe the virgin wants a virgin too. She may not want a used model. She may desire a brand new, just-off-the-showroom-floor model.
     It is not fair for men to expect women to be virgins if the men are not virgins. If you are not a virgin man, what makes you think you have the right to expect the women to be a virgin? 
     In another vein, I have seen men and women of one race who think their spouse has to be of another race in order for them to be happy. This is plain foolishness.
     You will not have a happy marriage because the person's skin in white, and you will not have a bad marriage because the skin is black. Skin color has nothing in the world to do with a happy marriage. 
     I have seen some miserable black folks, and I have seen some miserable white folks. There has been miserable Asians and miserable Latinos. The color of one's skin does not guarantee happiness. It is plain foolishness to say, "I am going to have him or her because they are white, or black, or Asian or Latino.